Category: Dating and Relationships
A friend of mine really liked this guy and she was waiting for him to ask her out and wouldn't even ask him out herself. She said girls aren't supposed to ask guys out. What do you think is it wrong for a girl to ask a guy out?
Not at all it's quite normal now for women to ask guys on a date and even propose marriage..I don't see anything wrong with it.
No. I don't think it's wrong at all!!! However, I think that marriage is a different story. hehehe Will I still get my diamond ring???
*sexy*
I don't know... Personally, I'd rather the guy ask me out... just me being traditional, I guess. Most of the guys I know (or at least would consider dating) are those who like the challenge of pursuing a woman.. and generally, women deep down admit that they like to be "chased", so to speak
you know i dont swing that way, but if i did, i'd definitely do it.
ah yes, times havve changed. even the marrige thing, I was surprised to hear as the last tradition I'd heard is that the woman can only propose to the guy on the valentines day of a leap year! .. I am into tradition myself, but with my latest situation, the question wasn't even asked. we just knew we were together. but on the other hand, you've really got to be careful with that approach that you don't jump to any wrong conclusions. so normally, yes i would like to clarify in words! and yes, though I get very shy, I would ask guys out. actually, normally it would more so be that I would try find out if they like me first! think that's all I ever have done. I never have asked anyone out as such yet Lol
i don't see anything wrong with that at all personally. after all why not?
Yeah thanks guys. Please keep posting.
Actually, i think it's good. because if the girl is confident enough to ask the guy out but the guy isn't confident enough, then it can solve alot of problems. So actually i think it's good from that perspective at least.
Hmm why would a confident girl want to go out with an insecure guy, isn't she puting herself in line for jealousy possesive behaviour and a host of other nasties..
Yeah I used to be traditional and thought that the guy should ask me out. But the two serious relationships i've had, its gone the other way. One guy said to me, "Well if you like me, why not ask me out?!" so i did and the other one, well he was too shy to ask me out, i told him he'd have to, as i thought that girls shouldn't ask guys out, but in the end i realised that he wasn't going to ask me out, however much he fancied me cos he was too shy, so i just said "Right then, if you won't ask me out, i'll just have to ask you, otherwise we'll get nowhere!" so the traditional thing went out the window both times for me.
Well, Iono really. Every time I've asked someone, it didn't work (the relationship, I mean, if they said yes, that is). Of course even when I didn't, it didn't work yet, either, so I guess I'm not quite old/experienced enough to really answer this question...
ah but with every experience comes knowledge, so you can make things better the next time. ok it can be painful but it works.
Lol Goblin .. interesting question that it is Lol .. um, I think this was brought up in a similar board topic yonks ago, but we all think guys are so tough and never feel the same affects of rejection than us girls do (which is still why a lot of girls are hesitent) but guys can hate rejection just as much, (is that true guys)?
Um, yes, I think it's fine for girls to do the asking, yes, I will do it, and in my limited experience, I've found that a lot of guys like girls to make the first move.
Absolutely there is nothing worse for anyone, than the feeling of rejection and your prospective lumber treating you with disdain.
I am a guy and I well. LOL I just realized how dumb that sounded. I am a guy. Like you people didn't know that? LOL Hehee, anyway. What was I saying? Oh yes. I say girls, ask us guys out! I mean, why not? I also think that women always seem to expect the guy to make the first move, the first kiss, the first anything... Why is this so? I get tired of it.... John
hmmm an interesting topic for me still as I contemplate the fact that I am going over seas to stay with a close friend in February. We were together but decided for the time being we're better off being friends. I'm thinking since I'll be with him on valentines day and all .. who knows how brave I may be! :) .. and it won't be a leap year either! there goes the tradition breakdown again :)
well time will tell, it always does. just role with it and see where it leeds you.
well... I use to do the asking, but then my mommy told me no, and my future mate who lives in Aussie told me the girls ask the guy out, so if I'm gonna move to aus, then... I dunnow?
well you do what comes natural don't you. that's what i think
Yes, it is wrong for a woman to pursue, or initiate a relationship with, a man.
Do whats comfortable for you. Personally I asked a guy out once, and I'll never do that again. You run the risk of rejection and that can lead the heart break. However, if you get to know the guy and he likes you then I don't see why bringing up a relationship wont hurt. Then they can tell you their honest humble opinion. However, the guy is the one who asks the girl to marry him.
Regardless of what one's gender is, I think if you want to ask someone out, do it. In most cases, ladies, you are going to leave a good impression with the guy if you ask him out. It shows confidence and generally speaking, men are attracted to that quality.
Traditionally...? Yes, but I don't see anything wrong with it...? A woman has jus as much rights as a man, and a man has just as much rights as a woman.
I don't think there's anything wrong in it. whoever can ask. or express their own feelings.
Raaj.
I don't think it's wrong in general; whatever the individual feels comfortable with. But I'd personally prefer for the guy to ask me out.
I feel that if a girl asks a guy out it's ok, but a guy has to be the one to purpose
*shrugs* I don't see anything wrong with it. It'd be nice to not always have to be the one asking.
lol nehemiah, sometimes when i've asked guys out, they thought i was crazy
Are you sure that had anything to do with you doing the asking out? :P
I suppose some will. But if they have that much of a problem with it, consider what that may say about them. For most things in life there are many ways to do many things. I'd venture to say that the majority of them are not "right" or "wrong" just simply a way. I think this goes for many things involving relationships as well. :) Of course, people are perfectly open to disagree with me.
i'm very old fashon for my age so i say no it's the guys job not a girls..